Education & Prevention
Through community presentations, newspaper articles, radio spots and educational programs, knowledge of the problem of family violence and its solution is creating social change.
We see education as the key to awareness and prevention of domestic violence and its dynamics.
Looking for someone to speak about domestic violence to your church, social, civic, or business group? WIN community education cooridnators can talk about the work being done through our services as well as our client and staff needs regarding volunteers and resources. We also offer training to a wide variety of occupations wanting to know more about domestic violence, its effect and help for its victims. Teachers, law enforcement agents, business owners, clergy, and health care workers are some of the groups that can benefit from training.
Teen Dating Violence Prevention Programs:
WIN provides prevention programs for local middle and high schools that focus on dating abuse and how to prevent it.
To schedule a speaker contact our Community Education Coordinators:
Did You Know…?
- Physical and sexual abuse against adolescent girls in dating relationships increases the likelihood that the girl will abuse drugs and/or alcohol, develop an eating disorder, consider and/or attempt suicide, engage in risky sexual behavior and/or become pregnant.
- Hitting your girlfriend or boyfriend is a crime.
- 40% of teenage girls ages 14 to 17 report knowing someone their age who has been hit or beaten by a boyfriend.
- Violent relationships begin at an average age of 15.
- 1 in 3 teenagers experience physical violence in their dating relationships.
Signs of Abuse
Questions the victim about her conversations, accusations of flirting, jealous of time spent with family, friends or children, repeatedly checking on her whereabouts or asking friends to watch her.
- Controlling Behavior
Questions where she went or who she talked to, controlling decisions regarding the house, clothing or finances, restricting her ability to leave the house, excessive texting, calling or emailing.
- Quick Relationship Involvement
Comes on like a whirlwind, says, you’re the only person I can talk to” or “I’ve never loved anyone this much,” pressures the woman to commit.
- Unrealistic Expectations
Very dependent on the woman for all his needs, expects a perfect wife, mother, lover and friend, expects her to take care of everything involving their home and his emotions.
Attempts to cut the woman off from all her resources, accuses her supporters of “causing trouble”, restricts access to a car, or keeps her from working or going to school.
- Blames Others for His Feelings
uses his feelings to manipulate the woman ¬ “you made me mad,” “you made me hit you,” or “I can’t help being angry with you”.
Easily insulted, claims his feelings are hurt when he is really mad, takes slight set backs as personal attacks, rants and raves about the injustice of what has happened to him.
- Cruelty to Animals or Children
Punishes animals brutally or is insensitive to their pain or suffering, expects children to do things beyond their abilities, teases children until they cry, isolates children from the rest of the family.
- Playful Use of Force in Sex
Holds the woman down during sex, acts out fantasies where the woman is helpless, the idea of rape excites him, manipulates the woman into compliance, demands sex when she is ill or tired, unusual interest in or addiction to pornography.
- Verbal Abuse
Cruel or hurtful remarks, degrades the woman, diminishes accomplishments, name¬calling, wakes her up to continue verbal abuse.
- Rigid Gender Roles
Expects a woman to serve him, insists she stay in the home at all times, he is the boss and she must obey him in all things, sees women as inferior to men.
- Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde
Sudden changes in mood, nice one minute then explodes the next. Nice outside of the home, convincing others he is charming and the perfect mate, but angry, defensive and critical behind closed doors. Friends often have a difficult time believing the same person could have such opposing behaviors.
- Past Battering
Has hit women in the past, but they “made him do it,” has a history of fighting or violence outside the family, record of trouble with the police.
- Threats of Violence
Any threats of physical force used to control the woman.
- Breaking or Hitting Objects
Used as punishment (breaking her possessions) or to terrorize the woman into submission.
- Any Force During an Argument
Holding a woman down, physically restraining her from leaving, pushing or shoving as a means of control.